Today I want to bring you a book, The Four Agreements.

If you don’t have it in audio or a book form, I have both because it’s a great book. It’s something that I think you should definitely read once a year. I’m just going to read you this little part here in the front. These are the four agreements, and there’s only four, and they’re pretty tough. They’re simple, but tough. “Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself, or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” Now that seems simple, but it’s very difficult. Gossip is something that most of us do, and gossip kills. Gossip is very bad. Even if you know something to be true, you should keep it to yourself, and not say something about somebody else.

Because think about your fingers.

You have one pointing at somebody, there’s three more coming back at you. So what you spit out of your mouth about somebody else, there’s more coming back at you. So really be impeccable with your word. “Don’t take anything personally.” Boy, is this one a big one? “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do, is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Nothing others do is because of you.” So whatever anybody else does, it doesn’t matter what they do, they’re doing it for themselves. Your mate, they’re bringing you flowers, they’re bringing you candies, they’re doing all these things. They’re doing it for themselves. Yes, it makes you happy, it makes you feel good and it makes them feel good.

But it’s for themselves to feel good.

So just understand whatever anybody does it is for them. Just think about it for yourself. You’re no different than anybody else. Whatever you do, you’re doing it for yourself. And if you’re in a home business, if somebody doesn’t join you in your business or buy your products, it’s because they don’t feel that it’s something that’s going to help them. So just let it go. So remember, people only do what’s good for themselves. “Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.” We could all use less drama in our lives, right? “With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” Assumptions. Don’t assume anything. We can sit in such sadness and self pity when we assume things. We assume somebody doesn’t like us, we assume somebody did something because of … Don’t assume.

Just ask “Why?”.

If it’s something that’s really eating you up inside and something that’s really bothering you, ask the question, clear it up so there’s no drama, no misunderstandings going on. Ask. Don’t be afraid to ask. A lot of times people are fearful of it. Ask. No matter what the answer is that you’re getting back, at least you will know. “Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you’re healthy, as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self judgment, self abuse and regret.” All you can do is your best. Your best is your best, is your best, and that’s all you can do. Every single day is going to be a different day. You might get up and you might have a migraine, as I get.

Or maybe

you just feel sick to your stomach. You have the flu or whatever. The kids are sick. Right now it’s very cold here, the water pipes break, whatever it is, right? You just have to do your best that you can do with the circumstances that are handed to you, and that’s all you can do. Your best is your best. that’s it. So those are the four agreements. It’s, be impeccable with your word. Whatever comes out of your mouth, be very careful. Don’t take anything personally. Remember, whatever anybody does, it’s for themselves. It’s not because of you. Don’t make assumptions, don’t assume anything. And always do your best. Do the best that you can do throughout your day. The best through anything that’s going on, your best is your best, and it’s all you can do. So I would recommend getting this book. It’s great. I love it on audio, and I always flip through the book too. So you have an amazing day, and try to do these four things.

Alice McCarthy