We all know of someone that seems to
attract customers and friends with no
effort. We use words such as drawn, we
say that people are drawn to him or her.
Now, you can’t force people to like you,
but if you give them the right food they
will come to you.
If you put a can of cat food on your back
door step…you know you will draw all the
cats and other animals that like the smell
to your door step.
With these three basic foods, people will
be attracted to you also.
Now, nice people do not necessarily attract
everyone. You can be the nicest person in
the world, but if you do not offer the food
they are hungering for, they will not be your
friend. Sometimes, being around nice people
makes some feel uncomfortable, guilty and
inferior. With that being said, here are the
three basic (A) foods people hunger for.
Once you understand what is behind them
more people will warm up to you.
1. Acceptance ~ We all want to be accepted
for who we are. We want to be around others
we can be relaxed with. Kick our shoes off,
drink right out of the milk carton. We don’t
like to be around judgmental people with a
solution to everything. These people repel
others. Let people be who they are, if they
are a little strange, let them be! Don’t insist
everyone does things your way…there are
many ways to do things. People that accept
others as they are, have the most influence
in that persons life.

2. Approval ~ Approval goes much beyond
acceptance. In acceptance we accept others
with all their faults and still call them friends.
Approval means we have to find something
positive about the other person…it goes
beyond just tolerating their faults. Now, we
can find things we like and things we don’t
like in all our friends. It depends on what it
is you are looking for. If you are a negative
person you are always looking for things you
can disapprove of. If you are a positive person
you are always looking for things to approve of.
No one is perfect. Find something to approve of
in others and you will attract and keep more
friends.

3. Appreciation ~ Finding value in others. Let
others know how much you appreciate them.
Find ways to show them just how important
they are to you. Don’t keep people waiting,
answer them as soon as possible. Make sure
you thank people, even send them a little note.
Treat people with respect…make them feel
special. Now, when you treat someone special
make sure it is not the same way you treat
others, because let’s say it was that special
note you sent out to them…and they saw you
sent the same note to someone else, the value
is no longer there.
If you study the people that are attracting others
you will see they are offering the basic things
that others are hungry for.

Like A Bee To A Flower,

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